Since I have only seen portions of a few episodes myself, I decided to look up on none other than Wikipedia.com for some insight:
The Main Character is Carrie: "A club/bar/restaurant staple" who "is known for her unique fashion sense, which is high on her priority list." She is a self-proclaimed shoe fetishist and she focuses most of her attention (and bank account) on designer footwear, primarily Monolo Blahniks. Her life is a whirlwind of shopping sprees and she is repeatedly "guilty of overspending her limit and maxing out her credit card in a single shopping trip." She is in her mid thirties and over the course of the show has multiple partners and failed relationships.
Charolette, who is considered the most "conservative" of the characters is the youngest, yet still divorced. In the process of her divorce she meets a divorce lawyer with whom she pursues a "sex only relationship" with and later ends up marrying despite his less than stellar qualities.
Miranda: Has an on-again-off-again relationship with a boyfriend for years, gets pregnant and remains a single Mom for a majority of the show until the end.
Samantha: "a seductress who avoids emotional involvement at all costs, while satisfying every possible carnal desire imaginable" who "believes that she has had "hundreds" of soulmates and insists that her sexual partners leave "an hour after I climax". Enough said.
So now again I ponder, why are these women so admired? They are all mid-thirties or forties, unsuccessful with men and real meaningful relationships, max out their credit cards on shopping sprees (again I point out that they are mid-thirties and forties) and know more about the latest season's Gucci collection than how to have self-respect for oneself. The show's theme seems to be "No matter how much your life sucks, you still have your girlfriends". It not only makes me feel sick inside, it also makes me very sad.
Women everywhere watch shows such as these as well as other women around them and think this is normal. Modern society seems not only to have abundance of such behavior, but actually seems to put value in it. It's no wonder nearly every female you know has had an experience where she doesn't understand why "he never called her back". Newsflash ladies: If you sleep with a guy the first night you meet him, he is probably not going to call you back. Why would he respect you if you do not respect yourself?
I have to be honest and say that I learned most of these lessons the hard way. I have made numerous mistakes in my past that I am not proud of, but the difference is I have LEARNED from them and try my best not to repeat my prior behaviors. I now find myself at a place where I respect myself and my future husband. It may not be trendy or cool to hold these values, but the type of guy who does not admire such traits simply does not deserve me.
I close with a quote from Spike TV's voted "Hottest Girl on the Planet" and the world's fourth highest paid supermodel in the world, Adriana Lima:
"Sex is for after marriage. Men have to respect that this is my choice. If there's no respect, that means they don't want me."
Well said Miss Lima
